Are you the type to take a photograph of your lunch every day and post
it onto Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media apps? Maybe
you saw some beauty in the composition of the plate? Maybe you know a
few friends who will rush out to get the same bite once they see the pic?
Maybe you were just bored? Whatever your reason for frequently sharing
your life over social media, it needs to be dramatically curbed if you
are going through a
divorce or settling a
child custody dispute.
family law matters such as divorce,
alimony, child custody, and so on require a certain level of delicateness to complete
without someone getting hurt. Posting up each facet of your daily life
could arguably be a polar opposite of carefulness. Without a filter on
what you are sharing and allowing anyone to see it – even the “private”
account stuff will make its way around eventually – increases the
risk of bad blood between the divorcing spouses. The most innocuous or
friendly of posts can be misconstrued or misinterpreted to be malicious
or spiteful, taking what could have been a fast
uncontested divorce resolved through
mediation and turning it into a mess of emotions and courtroom dates.
Imagine how you would feel if your spouse kept sharing images of them having
fun nights out with friends, laughing and loving every minute of it, while
you were at home struggling to get the pieces of your divorce together.
Even if they were putting on a fake smile for the camera, you would never
know that and you might understandably start to feel jaded. And if it
can happen to you, it can happen to them, too.
Don’t Be Their Fly on the Wall
Other than giving your soon-to-be ex-spouse some potential emotional cannon
fodder, regular posting to social media can give them unnecessary, and
risky, insight into your private life that you probably don’t want
to be their business anymore. The most damaging picture they can uncover
is one of you with a new flame. Even if it is a harmless, friends-only
relationship, your spouse could shape it into evidence of adultery or
unfaithfulness, something to show that you were not committed to the marriage
and, therefore, deserve less of your
In terms of child custody agreements, sharing too much on social media
apps and website also opens up a wide window for your spouse to look through
in search of negligent behavior. You know, the sort of actions that a
parent should probably steer clear from? Back to the scenario of finding
a folder of “night out” pictures on your spouse’s wall,
such a carefree, party-oriented mindset might not be right for your children,
stripping them of some of their child custody rights. And if you can do
that to them, they can do it to you. If you let them.
Step Away in More than One Way
Once you know that your marriage has run its course, it may be difficult
but it is time to step away from your spouse while the dust settles. And
you also need to step away from your social media apps. The benefit of
keeping up with the Joneses does not outweigh the risks you take of exposing
your personal life to the suspicious eyes of your spouse.
If you are going through a divorce in Texas and need help figuring out
what your next decision should be,
contact me, Deer Park Divorce Attorney Dennis M. Slate. I can explain further the
disadvantages of social media and steer you towards a peaceful resolution
that does not leave you, your ex-spouse, or your children feeling cheated.
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